{"id":600,"date":"2023-10-08T12:00:47","date_gmt":"2023-10-08T12:00:47","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/cube-ld.co.uk\/blog\/?p=600"},"modified":"2023-10-31T10:07:29","modified_gmt":"2023-10-31T10:07:29","slug":"mastering-personal-impact-the-power-of-assertiveness","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/cube-ld.co.uk\/blog\/mastering-personal-impact-the-power-of-assertiveness\/","title":{"rendered":"Mastering personal impact: The power of assertiveness"},"content":{"rendered":"<p><span data-contrast=\"auto\">As we navigate our careers, how well we communicate, work together and express ourselves shapes our path. This blog dives into personal impact, spotlighting assertiveness and cooperation. We&#8217;ll look at common behaviours like aggression and passivity, see why they&#8217;re not ideal, and discover why assertiveness is the best way to communicate effectively.<\/span><span data-ccp-props=\"{}\">\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n<h2><b><span data-contrast=\"auto\">What is assertiveness?<\/span><\/b><span data-ccp-props=\"{}\">\u00a0<\/span><\/h2>\n<p><span data-contrast=\"auto\">\u2018Assertiveness is an honest and appropriate expression of your feelings, opinions and needs\u2019 according to <\/span><a href=\"https:\/\/books.google.co.uk\/books?hl=en&amp;lr=&amp;id=EN2YAgAAQBAJ&amp;oi=fnd&amp;pg=PT4&amp;dq=hadfield+and+hasson&amp;ots=l4iwEe5ses&amp;sig=GyYFZpcgZyW0ykh0doUzykWM5oI#v=onepage&amp;q=hadfield%20and%20hasson&amp;f=false\"><span data-contrast=\"none\">Hadfield and Hasson<\/span><\/a><span data-contrast=\"auto\">. It\u2019s about standing up for yourself and your rights while maintaining an open and respectful attitude toward others. <\/span><a href=\"https:\/\/businessinthenews.co.uk\/2022\/05\/24\/revealed-79-of-young-people-believe-they-have-missed-out-at-work-due-to-a-lack-of-assertiveness\/\"><span data-contrast=\"none\">A survey of 500 people<\/span><\/a><span data-contrast=\"auto\">, found that 79% of young people (under 35) and 51% of older people (over 45) believe they have missed out at work due to a lack of assertiveness.<\/span><span data-ccp-props=\"{}\">\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n<h2><b><span data-contrast=\"auto\">Understanding behavioural types<\/span><\/b><span data-ccp-props=\"{}\">\u00a0<\/span><\/h2>\n<p><span data-contrast=\"auto\">In human interactions, there are four main ways people behave: assertive, aggressive, passive and passive-aggressive. Each of these ways shows how people express their needs, opinions, and feelings. Although you might know about these styles, it&#8217;s important to understand how they affect your personal and career growth.<\/span><span data-ccp-props=\"{}\">\u00a0<\/span><span data-ccp-props=\"{}\">\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n<ul>\n<li data-leveltext=\"\uf0b7\" data-font=\"Symbol\" data-listid=\"3\" data-list-defn-props=\"{&quot;335552541&quot;:1,&quot;335559684&quot;:-2,&quot;335559685&quot;:720,&quot;335559991&quot;:360,&quot;469769226&quot;:&quot;Symbol&quot;,&quot;469769242&quot;:[8226],&quot;469777803&quot;:&quot;left&quot;,&quot;469777804&quot;:&quot;\uf0b7&quot;,&quot;469777815&quot;:&quot;hybridMultilevel&quot;}\" aria-setsize=\"-1\" data-aria-posinset=\"1\" data-aria-level=\"1\"><b><span data-contrast=\"auto\">Aggressive<\/span><\/b><span data-contrast=\"auto\">: Forceful communication that ignores others&#8217; perspectives, causing tension and conflicts. It hampers cooperation and teamwork<\/span><span data-ccp-props=\"{}\">\u00a0<\/span><\/li>\n<li data-leveltext=\"\uf0b7\" data-font=\"Symbol\" data-listid=\"3\" data-list-defn-props=\"{&quot;335552541&quot;:1,&quot;335559684&quot;:-2,&quot;335559685&quot;:720,&quot;335559991&quot;:360,&quot;469769226&quot;:&quot;Symbol&quot;,&quot;469769242&quot;:[8226],&quot;469777803&quot;:&quot;left&quot;,&quot;469777804&quot;:&quot;\uf0b7&quot;,&quot;469777815&quot;:&quot;hybridMultilevel&quot;}\" aria-setsize=\"-1\" data-aria-posinset=\"2\" data-aria-level=\"1\"><b><span data-contrast=\"auto\">Passive<\/span><\/b><span data-contrast=\"auto\">: Avoid confrontation and suppressing feelings, which can lead to missed opportunities and unfulfilled potential due to a lack of self-assertion<\/span><span data-ccp-props=\"{}\">\u00a0<\/span><\/li>\n<li data-leveltext=\"\uf0b7\" data-font=\"Symbol\" data-listid=\"3\" data-list-defn-props=\"{&quot;335552541&quot;:1,&quot;335559684&quot;:-2,&quot;335559685&quot;:720,&quot;335559991&quot;:360,&quot;469769226&quot;:&quot;Symbol&quot;,&quot;469769242&quot;:[8226],&quot;469777803&quot;:&quot;left&quot;,&quot;469777804&quot;:&quot;\uf0b7&quot;,&quot;469777815&quot;:&quot;hybridMultilevel&quot;}\" aria-setsize=\"-1\" data-aria-posinset=\"3\" data-aria-level=\"1\"><b><span data-contrast=\"auto\">Passive-Aggressive<\/span><\/b><span data-contrast=\"auto\">: Mixing passivity and aggression, this behaviour subtly expresses negativity, harming open communication and trust in relationships<\/span><span data-ccp-props=\"{}\">\u00a0<\/span><\/li>\n<\/ul>\n<ul>\n<li data-leveltext=\"\uf0b7\" data-font=\"Symbol\" data-listid=\"3\" data-list-defn-props=\"{&quot;335552541&quot;:1,&quot;335559684&quot;:-2,&quot;335559685&quot;:720,&quot;335559991&quot;:360,&quot;469769226&quot;:&quot;Symbol&quot;,&quot;469769242&quot;:[8226],&quot;469777803&quot;:&quot;left&quot;,&quot;469777804&quot;:&quot;\uf0b7&quot;,&quot;469777815&quot;:&quot;hybridMultilevel&quot;}\" aria-setsize=\"-1\" data-aria-posinset=\"1\" data-aria-level=\"1\"><b><span data-contrast=\"auto\">Assertive<\/span><\/b><span data-contrast=\"auto\">: The standout, assertiveness balances self-expression and respect for others. It encourages healthy collaboration, problem-solving, and career advancement<\/span><span data-ccp-props=\"{}\">\u00a0<\/span><\/li>\n<\/ul>\n<h2><b><span data-contrast=\"auto\">The power of assertiveness<\/span><\/b><span data-ccp-props=\"{}\">\u00a0<\/span><\/h2>\n<p><span data-contrast=\"auto\">As previously mentioned by Hadfield and Hasson, assertiveness means confidently communicating without hesitation. But what makes assertiveness so special?<\/span><span data-ccp-props=\"{}\">\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n<ul>\n<li data-leveltext=\"\uf0b7\" data-font=\"Symbol\" data-listid=\"4\" data-list-defn-props=\"{&quot;335552541&quot;:1,&quot;335559684&quot;:-2,&quot;335559685&quot;:720,&quot;335559991&quot;:360,&quot;469769226&quot;:&quot;Symbol&quot;,&quot;469769242&quot;:[8226],&quot;469777803&quot;:&quot;left&quot;,&quot;469777804&quot;:&quot;\uf0b7&quot;,&quot;469777815&quot;:&quot;hybridMultilevel&quot;}\" aria-setsize=\"-1\" data-aria-posinset=\"1\" data-aria-level=\"1\"><b><span data-contrast=\"auto\">Clear communication:<\/span><\/b><span data-contrast=\"auto\"> Assertiveness relies on clear, calm speaking and nonverbal cues. A relaxed voice, steady eye contact, and open body language create an open and receptive atmosphere. You can read more about this in our <\/span><a href=\"https:\/\/cube-ld.co.uk\/blog\/making-a-good-first-impression-tips-for-building-rapport\/\"><span data-contrast=\"none\">previous blog about building rapport<\/span><\/a><span data-ccp-props=\"{}\">\u00a0<\/span><\/li>\n<li data-leveltext=\"\uf0b7\" data-font=\"Symbol\" data-listid=\"4\" data-list-defn-props=\"{&quot;335552541&quot;:1,&quot;335559684&quot;:-2,&quot;335559685&quot;:720,&quot;335559991&quot;:360,&quot;469769226&quot;:&quot;Symbol&quot;,&quot;469769242&quot;:[8226],&quot;469777803&quot;:&quot;left&quot;,&quot;469777804&quot;:&quot;\uf0b7&quot;,&quot;469777815&quot;:&quot;hybridMultilevel&quot;}\" aria-setsize=\"-1\" data-aria-posinset=\"2\" data-aria-level=\"1\"><b><span data-contrast=\"auto\">Active listening:<\/span><\/b><span data-contrast=\"auto\"> Being assertive means listening actively and valuing different views for collaborative solutions. For more tips around active listening, take a look at our previous blog: \u2018<\/span><a href=\"https:\/\/cube-ld.co.uk\/blog\/building-rapport-through-questioning-and-active-listening\/\"><span data-contrast=\"none\">Building rapport through questioning and active listening\u2019<\/span><\/a><span data-ccp-props=\"{}\">\u00a0<\/span><\/li>\n<li data-leveltext=\"\uf0b7\" data-font=\"Symbol\" data-listid=\"4\" data-list-defn-props=\"{&quot;335552541&quot;:1,&quot;335559684&quot;:-2,&quot;335559685&quot;:720,&quot;335559991&quot;:360,&quot;469769226&quot;:&quot;Symbol&quot;,&quot;469769242&quot;:[8226],&quot;469777803&quot;:&quot;left&quot;,&quot;469777804&quot;:&quot;\uf0b7&quot;,&quot;469777815&quot;:&quot;hybridMultilevel&quot;}\" aria-setsize=\"-1\" data-aria-posinset=\"3\" data-aria-level=\"1\"><b><span data-contrast=\"auto\">Thoughtful words:<\/span><\/b><span data-contrast=\"auto\"> Careful word choice is key. It ensures your message is inclusive, not confrontational, and invites constructive engagement<\/span><span data-ccp-props=\"{}\">\u00a0<\/span><\/li>\n<li data-leveltext=\"\uf0b7\" data-font=\"Symbol\" data-listid=\"4\" data-list-defn-props=\"{&quot;335552541&quot;:1,&quot;335559684&quot;:-2,&quot;335559685&quot;:720,&quot;335559991&quot;:360,&quot;469769226&quot;:&quot;Symbol&quot;,&quot;469769242&quot;:[8226],&quot;469777803&quot;:&quot;left&quot;,&quot;469777804&quot;:&quot;\uf0b7&quot;,&quot;469777815&quot;:&quot;hybridMultilevel&quot;}\" aria-setsize=\"-1\" data-aria-posinset=\"4\" data-aria-level=\"1\"><b><span data-contrast=\"auto\">Asking well:<\/span><\/b><span data-contrast=\"auto\"> Using open-ended questions and gentle prompts shows genuine curiosity, deepening conversations<\/span><span data-ccp-props=\"{}\">\u00a0<\/span><\/li>\n<\/ul>\n<ul>\n<li data-leveltext=\"\uf0b7\" data-font=\"Symbol\" data-listid=\"4\" data-list-defn-props=\"{&quot;335552541&quot;:1,&quot;335559684&quot;:-2,&quot;335559685&quot;:720,&quot;335559991&quot;:360,&quot;469769226&quot;:&quot;Symbol&quot;,&quot;469769242&quot;:[8226],&quot;469777803&quot;:&quot;left&quot;,&quot;469777804&quot;:&quot;\uf0b7&quot;,&quot;469777815&quot;:&quot;hybridMultilevel&quot;}\" aria-setsize=\"-1\" data-aria-posinset=\"1\" data-aria-level=\"1\"><b><span data-contrast=\"auto\">Managing limits:<\/span><\/b><span data-contrast=\"auto\"> Assertiveness involves setting healthy boundaries. This confidence helps in navigating work interactions and fostering personal growth<\/span><span data-ccp-props=\"{}\">\u00a0<\/span><\/li>\n<\/ul>\n<h2><b><span data-contrast=\"auto\">Overcoming barriers to assertiveness<\/span><\/b><span data-ccp-props=\"{}\">\u00a0<\/span><\/h2>\n<p><span data-contrast=\"auto\">While assertiveness is a path to effective communication, there are a number of hurdles that can hold you back:<\/span><span data-ccp-props=\"{}\">\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n<ul>\n<li data-leveltext=\"\uf0b7\" data-font=\"Symbol\" data-listid=\"5\" data-list-defn-props=\"{&quot;335552541&quot;:1,&quot;335559684&quot;:-2,&quot;335559685&quot;:720,&quot;335559991&quot;:360,&quot;469769226&quot;:&quot;Symbol&quot;,&quot;469769242&quot;:[8226],&quot;469777803&quot;:&quot;left&quot;,&quot;469777804&quot;:&quot;\uf0b7&quot;,&quot;469777815&quot;:&quot;hybridMultilevel&quot;}\" aria-setsize=\"-1\" data-aria-posinset=\"1\" data-aria-level=\"1\"><b><span data-contrast=\"auto\">Early lessons<\/span><\/b><span data-contrast=\"auto\">: Childhood warnings about being bossy can hold back assertiveness. Recognising that it&#8217;s not the same as aggression breaks this barrier<\/span><span data-ccp-props=\"{}\">\u00a0<\/span><\/li>\n<li data-leveltext=\"\uf0b7\" data-font=\"Symbol\" data-listid=\"5\" data-list-defn-props=\"{&quot;335552541&quot;:1,&quot;335559684&quot;:-2,&quot;335559685&quot;:720,&quot;335559991&quot;:360,&quot;469769226&quot;:&quot;Symbol&quot;,&quot;469769242&quot;:[8226],&quot;469777803&quot;:&quot;left&quot;,&quot;469777804&quot;:&quot;\uf0b7&quot;,&quot;469777815&quot;:&quot;hybridMultilevel&quot;}\" aria-setsize=\"-1\" data-aria-posinset=\"2\" data-aria-level=\"1\"><b><span data-contrast=\"auto\">Inner doubts<\/span><\/b><span data-contrast=\"auto\">: Self-doubt can sabotage assertiveness. Replacing these thoughts with self-confidence is essential<\/span><span data-ccp-props=\"{}\">\u00a0<\/span><\/li>\n<li data-leveltext=\"\uf0b7\" data-font=\"Symbol\" data-listid=\"5\" data-list-defn-props=\"{&quot;335552541&quot;:1,&quot;335559684&quot;:-2,&quot;335559685&quot;:720,&quot;335559991&quot;:360,&quot;469769226&quot;:&quot;Symbol&quot;,&quot;469769242&quot;:[8226],&quot;469777803&quot;:&quot;left&quot;,&quot;469777804&quot;:&quot;\uf0b7&quot;,&quot;469777815&quot;:&quot;hybridMultilevel&quot;}\" aria-setsize=\"-1\" data-aria-posinset=\"3\" data-aria-level=\"1\"><b><span data-contrast=\"auto\">Anxiety and stress<\/span><\/b><span data-contrast=\"auto\">: High stress can hinder assertiveness. Managing these emotions using techniques like mindfulness can help<\/span><span data-ccp-props=\"{}\">\u00a0<\/span><\/li>\n<\/ul>\n<p><span data-contrast=\"auto\">For extra tips around overcoming procrastination and increasing productivity at work don\u2019t miss our <\/span><a href=\"https:\/\/cube-ld.co.uk\/blog\/how-to-stop-procrastinating-at-work-and-get-more-done\/\"><span data-contrast=\"none\">previous blog on this here<\/span><\/a><span data-contrast=\"auto\">.<\/span><span data-ccp-props=\"{}\">\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n<h2><b><span data-contrast=\"auto\">Putting assertiveness into practice<\/span><\/b><span data-ccp-props=\"{}\">\u00a0<\/span><\/h2>\n<p><span data-contrast=\"auto\">Imagine you&#8217;re working on a team project, and there&#8217;s a tight deadline approaching. You have a co-worker who consistently misses their deadlines, which puts the entire team&#8217;s progress at risk. In an assertive manner, you might approach your co-worker with the following:<\/span><span data-ccp-props=\"{}\">\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n<p><i><span data-contrast=\"auto\">&#8220;Hi [NAME], I wanted to talk to you about our project. I&#8217;ve noticed that we&#8217;re getting close to the deadline, and some of your tasks haven&#8217;t been completed yet. I understand that things can get busy, but it&#8217;s important for us to meet our deadlines so that the whole team can succeed. Can we discuss your timeline and how we can work together to ensure everything is on track?&#8221;<\/span><\/i><span data-ccp-props=\"{}\">\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span data-contrast=\"auto\">In this example, you&#8217;re addressing the issue directly and respectfully, expressing your concern about the missed deadlines, and suggesting a collaborative solution. This approach maintains open communication while also advocating for the team&#8217;s success. It&#8217;s assertive because you&#8217;re expressing your viewpoint while being considerate of your co-worker&#8217;s perspective.<\/span><span data-ccp-props=\"{}\">\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n<h2><b><span data-contrast=\"auto\">Final thoughts<\/span><\/b><span data-ccp-props=\"{}\">\u00a0<\/span><\/h2>\n<p><span data-contrast=\"auto\">Remember that assertiveness isn&#8217;t only a skill \u2013 it&#8217;s a mindset that changes how we interact, encourages teamwork and boosts your career.<\/span><span data-ccp-props=\"{}\">\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span data-contrast=\"auto\">Are you ready to work on your assertiveness? <\/span><a href=\"https:\/\/cube-ld.co.uk\/contact.php\"><span data-contrast=\"none\">Cube Learning and Development<\/span><\/a><span data-contrast=\"auto\"> delivers tailor-made training and development programmes for your teams along with personal coaching to help with effective communication and presentation. For a no-obligation chat about this and our other training, call Chris Burton on 07879 602002.\u202f\u202f<\/span><span data-ccp-props=\"{}\">\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span data-ccp-props=\"{}\"> Featured image courtesy of unsplash<\/span><\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>As we navigate our careers, how well we communicate, work together and express ourselves shapes our path. This blog dives into personal impact, spotlighting assertiveness and cooperation. We&#8217;ll look at common behaviours like aggression and passivity, see why they&#8217;re not ideal, and discover why assertiveness is the best way to communicate effectively.\u00a0 What is assertiveness?\u00a0 \u2018Assertiveness is an honest and appropriate expression of your feelings, opinions and needs\u2019 according to Hadfield and Hasson. 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